Monday, April 13, 2009

Moved.

Last post.

This will be my last post for this blog address. Simply because too many know this address and frankly speaking, i just need a venue to vent out my frustration without anyone knowledge, maybe except my good friends.

Like i say my post is not really meant to target at anyone because if there is anything i need to tell the person, i will say it in the face. so all those words are simply my opinion and my opinion are needless to let anyone know as it is meant for myself.

Anyway a diary is meant to be locked forever by yourself, isnt it?

updates

set.

All right, here's a little updates of my life. I think i caused a upset in Chris life by meeting me in Bugis and eat a Pasta mania and he headed home. I am Truely sorry for what i have done. Even though he say nvm but is still it isnt nice at all. Owe him a meal. haha.

Recently i have been playing mahjong. all day long. it is a great activity because it trains your mind to think hard and think smart. Of course luck involves in every gambling aspect and i dont denied it comes on and off. I heard several of my friends got their enlistment letter already. Haiz what has to come, has to come. No way to avoid it since i am a singaporean, even though not a die hard one. Tyron is sleeping in my room and he is cute and funny, and naughty. haha.

I have been picking up some part time jobs here and there to transfer my directions elsewhere. Everyone has different and i must learn to listen first before sharing my thoughts. So it is better to ask for opinions FIRST then to shoot what's in your mind, unless you are told to do so. Thats the reason god gives us 2 ear and 1 mouth. With the different length of my fingers on my hand, i also understand that each one have different strengths and weakness. haha. Sounds weird isnt it?

I wish my family members and my friends happy always..

Why?

Sad, to the max.

it was just about 1 am plus when i reach home yesterday and updating my blog. all was cool and calm. simply nothing happened. until i heard a bomb.. followed by a scream. Sometimes it happens in my area because those malays playing water bomb. so i didnt even bother to look down. for a split second i did though of looking down my window, but i did not.

Then this morning when i am browsing through my phone internet, my mom told me someone jumped off the building yesterday night. This is sad......

Even though i do not is a she or a he, why end the life short? haizzzz.....

You cant make someone love you

moving on.

It's possible this is one of the hardest things to accept when it comes to matters of the heart. You find the person you've been looking for all your life. Trouble is, they dont seem to have realized it.

Maybe you met recently and you're head over heels, but they dont seem very keen. You're hanging on desperately, sure that they must soon realize you are made for each other ... Or maybe you've actually been together as a couple for years - they are very fond of you, after all, and being with you is easy - but deep down you know they dont really love you.

Sooner or, maybe, later they'll tell you that things just aren't working out, but you dont want to hear it. you try to persuade them to give you another chance. Maybe you try to change, to become the person they really want. It's all a bit humiliating really, but you dont see it like that. You think it's worth it to win their love.

Funny thing is though - it never works. Love just isnt like that. You can jump through any hoops you like, beat yourself up for not being able to match up their standard (as you see it), damage your confidence and your self- esteem in the process, and still they wont love you. They cant. Maybe they are gentle and apologetic about it, and maybe they are unkind or even brutal.

The same scenario is played out in relationship the world over - where only one of the 2 is actually in love. Think through some of the couples you know and i bet you can think of examples where this is true.

You see, however wonderful the object of your affections is, if they dont love you back the relationship will never be that good. Even supposing they could love you, if it requires you to keep jumping through all those hoops to hang on to them, it's just not worth it. You need and deserve someone who loves you for who you are, not for who you're pretending or trying to be. So as soon as you realize you're with someone who doesnt love you, you need to be really brave and end the relationship before they do. You will feel bad about losing them, but great for holding on to your pride, and one day you will look back and realize how courageous and right a decision it was.

Saturday, April 11, 2009

A sense of Humour will last you long after everything else has gone

Enlighten.

Choose someone who makes you laugh

This is the First rule because it is the most important in all relationship. If you choose your partner for their looks, their status, or even the rest of their personality, you could regret it eventually. Anyway lots of those can get lost along the way. Even personality traits can change - a confident person can be shattered by an emotional trauma, a patient person can become irritable and frustrated through illness or pain.

But a sense of humour will last you long after everything else has gone. When you are both sitting there in you rocking chairs, decades after retirement and the kids have long since grown up, it maybe all you have left. And if it is, it will be enough.

Laughter is worth it's weight in gold. A sense of humour is a very personal thing, and some people just make us laugh more then others. When you find the person who really makes you laugh more than anyone else, marry them. Assuming they are the right sex. Your are guaranteed to fancy them, because anyone who makes you laugh will be hugely attractive, even if they are not physically what you had been anticipating.

So next time you meet someone with gorgeous legs, or sexy eyes, or a cute smile, don't be seduced straight away. See if they can tickle you without touching first. Just don't compromise on the sense of humour, because it really is the top priority.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Whirlpool

Stalemate.

I tell you i m good. i dont need sleep. haha. I slept at 7 and woke up at 9. and i am damn awake. The very first thing i did is to hunt for my hp and go to 'always' the blog to see if there is any post. and got a post la with only one statement. And i promise myself this is the last sorrow thing about this shit and the rest will be buried, either i keep it to my very self or i will enter the chruch and speak to the statue there.

When there are little cards at your hands, there are little things you can do, especially small cards. This is the game of dai dee, correct? So i feeel i have little cards at my disposal till today because i realise i cannot do anything before sorting out what i want. And the lesson today is know what you want before doing anything to get what you want. If not you will reach the middle and fall off.

Everything change when their status change. Friends is like this. Together share all these laughter. But when together le minus away the laughter fill in with more sorrows and inject abit of the daily life quarrel and more problems raising up. I never know holding hands is nothing in today context.

I have a friend i am going to intro her to everyone. Let us name her... Teeth. huh teeth? yes teeth. haha. i knew her in a situation becoz she is my friend's friend. And teeth and i talk whenever she had problems with her boyfriend or upcoming boyfriend and vice versa. AND usually we will pour everything out is because i do not know her group of friends well and neither do her know my friends at all and we do not need to worry other of her friends know any of the secrets. All comments by us is genuine with no biased category in it and it is a straight forward de. No hiding no nothing. Just speak of the heart. and we usually talk from 10pm to 4 am and finish off with a 7-11 tour. So if possible, find one. Sometimes teeth comments is good because it is from a girls perspective.

If you are unclear of what you want, how can you expect people to fuifill what you want?

Everyone is someday must bow down to fate and admit defeat..

I like you, but i cant like you. It is hard to say when love is right in front of you. If you dont grab the chance, you will miss it. (scorpio1869)

the twist and turn of life.

SAD.

Today is the best day to describe what is a sad day. Really. I told the world Liverpool need to be a underdog to win games, big games. And there it goes boom a home defeat by 3 goals to 1. Lucky i never watch the match if not i will smash the TV, i promise you.

And the irony is, if i place a bet on chelsea or/and a draw, I SWEAR LIVERPOOL IS GOING TO WIN THE MATCH. Just like you double down a bet in blackjack when you saw banker got a single card 5, and usually the banker will ended up in a total of 20 or 21 points. U never know the fate until it happens. Some people just like to depend on luck, play slots machine which is not in their control at all.Totally depend on luck. But some will only play blackjack, mahjong or bacarrat simply because they believe they can control the fate of the game by controlling the movement of the cards or his observation skills. But Fark it, Fate make silly people look more silly. When you think you have the control of the game, fate will throw it away for u. when you though you wanna let it ride your bet , they will snatch it back from you and throw it back into your face telling I HAVE JUST FOOLED YOU. That's life.

Just no less then 24 hours, my life change drastically. Since back from Macau, i have prepared for the worst. i know my life is not that smooth. so i told myself to get ready for the worst setback. even the worst casino banker will get blackjack once in a blue moon. i never seem to learn to appreciate things. at the least friendship. and i almost burst one of my friend relationship. but fortunately we still can talk and i m glad about it. i never learn from past experience and always making things in a haste. i m just like many youngster out there who cant take things slowly. i cant seems to match what my horoscope says: ' the most stable when problems starts. Best in handling problems becoz willing to take things slowly and looking at all angles.' or how a Tarus should STEADILY FUNCTION. I sucked in it man. Now i am wondering am i born in may. If only everything can be nvm nvm and live the whole life.

and frankly speaking, i dont need any comments from anyone, especially people telling me how to do or function to be a better person becoz all those words are bull shit. If you are that damn good, then save the comments to yourself. i will live by my principles and i hope everybody respect me how i respect everybody.

That's all for today. Tired as a person, Predict true about life but just duno when it will stirke. Usually at the time when u didnt want it to happen most.

Good night folks.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Painting

Happy!

My family is going to paint the house! For the past 10 years that i have been living in this house, i have never though of smelling fresh paint over my room or the house. And here comes the controversy. My mom wanna hire the professionals to do the job but my Dad wants it to be done by our own hands! Coin will always have 2 sides, each with its pros and cons. HAHA. This ultimatum sent by my mom is a SERIOUS one. and no one dares to disagree. haha.

Ytd night is a good night. Not in terms of my sleep but the events that are happening. How much fun can 2 people have when they ended up in mustafa centre shopping aimlessly? but none the less, it was GREAT! haha. After that was my all time favourite, Mj and then Blackjack. Isnt this perfect life? It is. Only with the right people at the right time. And the small chat at the night... spending time with one another is always better facing device to get their msg sent. it always doesnt send the right msg. i still remember the funny look when you go home and didnt know how to reply to my question. and hurried off like an aeroplane. Haha. Maybe it is just more then a moment.

Liverpool tonigh face chelsea and i tell you i hate it. Not because our opponent is Chelsea(anyway we have beaten them at LEAST TWICE this season) but because they are the underdogs of the game. Usually Liverpool shine when they are the underdogs. But nvm, Just play and trust me, it is worth to stay awake for the game.

all right till now. Downloaded some power pack R&B. haha. Enjoy your day!

Saturday, April 4, 2009

Today is boring!

Bored.
as mention, today is a boring day. my sprint ankle makes the matter worst. i though i could shake the injury off during the game of basketball yesterday night but when i reach home, the sharp pain keeps coming back and i need no less then 6 medicine to counter the pain. Includes all traditional Zhen GU shui and many more. Finally it gets better this morning but the pain is THERE!

Some sports update in my blog! First is unity secondary enter the next round of National School competitions by beating maris stella high school. Ya i bet they wont lift the trophy again this season. haha. Cavs had a shocking defeat against Orlando? by a hugh margin? Simply unbelievable. HAHA. And tonight, Liverpool would love to continue the winning streak for the premier league trophy. Gee. DUn score too many la, by 2 can already. haha.


i was told my blog is too dry. No pictures. In other words it simply means boring, just like me. HAHa. so i found some funny pics from my e mail and i m going to share!

How are you going to spend this lots of money???? Man, the size of the total money can become my resting nest. haha. Hope i can get half of the pic there. Dont too greddy ah.. hahah
All right, that's all for now. 3 entries for these 2 days. nothing to do so finding something to do!

Friday, April 3, 2009

Good friday? NAh...

Content.

The first step towards my ambitions have began. I have completed the official basketball coaching course and has been told that i have pass the theory and the practical. I swear the paper is tough. When i had finish my paper, my coach is still stuck at the frist page. So i am glad that i manage to go through it.

A little too much to expect but i hope one day i can be a coach in theNCAA basketball, be it the first asia coach or the first Singaporean to reach there.

Chris told me before that it is not advisable to put tag-box in blogs. At that moment i wonder why? Now i know. Only losers vocie in tag-box because they do not know anything about the situation and comments like they know it all. Fark it losers .

Good friday coming? Nah, Chris say it doesnt really concern me because i am spending every week, every day a good monday, good tuesday, good wednesday, good thursday, good friday, good saturday and a good sunday. wahaha. sounds true. Have been slacking to the max.

All right done up today's entry. Go watch the new jackie chan movie. It is good..

American Idol

Peaceful..



i think i am in good control of myself and i am proud of myself. my good friend recently face some problems so he took medical leave to recuprate his mental damage. I suppose my another friend is also decieved by the word crush from the singer David Archuleta. We are all young and due to the speed of internet, we want things to be fast, and usually haste will make things fall ugly.



How many of us learn from past expeience or i should say YOUR history. there is a joke from a student,

Teacher: History is a very interesting subject. It tells you about what had happened in the past.

Student: Please teacher, I don't think I want to study history.

Teacher: Why?Student: There is no future in it.



So usually we will do what we think is right and hopefully avoid what is wrong from the past. but many will let history repeat itself. Just like me entering into a relationship without thinking much. i am just like any other kids today wanting things to happen fast. but in the end i spoilt somebody good days.



so it comes back to my this good friend whom he deem as a failure in this particular girl. i question him whether is this a crush or do you really like her? what the crush die down in no more then months, are there future in it? definately what i mean here is able to be together and do many things together and develop into love and responsibility. it really worth considering. but there are tons of successful stories backing that many still eventually get marry and live till old ripe age.



i always feel it takes courage to ask a girl out, to ask for her hand, or to even ask, how r u doing? Especially to those you know she is the one that let your heart skip a bit faster when you talk to her. for friends only category, this is not a problem. you dun even need courage, you just need a phone. Even though she doesnt know you like her, it will still takes a certain degree of courage to do so. But things get more intense when she knew you like her and the frequency of you and her going out decrease to a all time low.



So this is a song from David Archuleta, the americian idol. - Crush.



I hung up the phone tonight

Something happened for the first time

Deep inside It was a rush, what a rush

Cause the possibility that you would ever feel the same way about me

It's just too much, just too much



Why do I keep running from the truth

All I ever think about is you

You got me hypnotized, so mesmerized

And I just got to know



Do you ever think When you're all alone

All that we can be Where this thing can go

Am I crazy or falling in love Is it real or just another crush

Do you catch a breath When I look at you

Are you holding back Like the way I do

Cause I'm tryin, tryin to walk away But I know this crush aint goin away



Has it ever cross your mind When were hangin, spending time girl,

Are we just friends Is there more, is there more

See it's a chance we've gotta take Cause I believe that we can make this into

Something that will last, last forever, forever



Ended.



So i question my friend, let us name him Chris. This song is what i told him. can the girl or him make it something that it will last?



Enough of my friends. now is my turn. and i know i am in this situation, this crush situation. it is not a bad thing, neither it is good. and the target i am refering to definetely know this is meant for her because i just told her in msn. Going back to the song, it really makes me feel hypnotized, think about her, protective about her and a rush. and i would like to ask her has it ever cross her mind, when were hangin, spending time girl together, are we just friends or is there more? we can talk all around the world and non-stop and the feeling is great, but, Am I crazy or falling in love, Is it real or just another crush?



So now, i dont need any answer from anyone. Neither do i wish this friend of my shrink a distance away from me. We had fun and i hope it continues becoz we talk like no tommorrow. i could have jolly well confess to her and pile lots of shit on myself in many chances but i choose to take a back seat and view the whole thing to avoid another mistake. i dont need it to last forever, just good enough for all of us to be happy. Please dont tell me it is impossilbe because nothing is impossible since obama became the president of USA. the current situation is great. nobody wants changes. but only changes will lead to more success. this theory is from the book who move my cheese.



And hopefully when the time comes, we both get a chance at one another.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Basketball

satisfied.

What makes me so into coaching is because till today after 2 years, people still remember i was once a coach in a primary school, without a actual coaching cert and a young dude trying his success. But what makes me happy in coaching is when you recieve praise from all sorts of people and seeing your players performing in the court. Your own team craved by your own. You win some you lose some.

But even till now, my players still remember me as a coach and telling me they are getting into the school team and playing their next game at where and when. This feeling is so good and trust me, money cant buy such feelings. After the long torture of training from me in the past, they seems to remember the good times only and still perfroming now. I wish them all the best in their game and hopefully if i have the energy and time, i will visit their match.

so what sort of satisfaction do you get actually:
  1. starting from the first day, people address you as Coach.
  2. teach the students the skills they have never even heard before and gradually see them improve when day pass
  3. they told you your training is fun!
  4. their attendance is more stable and they start pulling friends to join
  5. we can even have tea or coffee outside the school, just like friends and they no longer scare of me, but respect.
  6. players telling you that they have never won a game before and it was their first time winning games
  7. win big teams like always national team Pei chun and know them out of south zone
  8. older coaches acknowledge your success and ask you keep it up
  9. more digits in your bank account
  10. Having a team that never won a game in south zone before entering national once i am in charge
  11. tournament ended, players invite you back to the school to join their school events
  12. no longer a coach there, but players told me the new coach isnt doing a job
  13. New coach doesnt even win a game in the south zone tournament in the new season
  14. Players telling you they are entering the school team and playing this week at various venue and timing

This feeling can never be compare with anything. All efforts pays off. Big time. No regrets.

Friday, March 20, 2009

Back in Singapore

tired and happy? Perhaps.

Back in Singapore after the 4 days Macau trip going all around small island visiting one casino after another. From MGM Grand to Wlynn to Holiday INN to Venetien to Star World to Grand Lisboa and many other small casinos. It is more then just an eye opener which shows how competitive the market is in Macau. Each casino got mini bus to fetch customers to their casino and everything seems easy for you to place your bets.

However experiencing the grand casino from asia to european to america style, it all boils down to one same feeling. The feeling of the banker taking away your 13.5 grams 100 HKD chips but on the same time wanting to continue to win more. The super-duper mix emotions play around all night long. Thinking what is the next card might be is more stressful then drawing money from the ATM. The worried no income boy whom only got that thousand to win some pocket money back to singapore. But overall it is fun. Everyone should try it out someday.

Ah Jack told me it is a good time for holiday. A time to reflect on your life. Looks like i had a wasted trip because i didnt think much at all. in fact is nothing to think about because i know what i want. I Think.

It gets harder every day, but I can’t seem to shake the pain. I’m trying to find the words to say, please sayIt’s written all over my face, I can’t Function the same when you’re not here. I’m calling your name and no one’s there.

And I hope one day you’ll see nobody has it easy, I still can’t believe you found somebody new. But I wish you the best, I guess.

I'm just an ordinary man.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

It all came back -- Homecoming

mixed feelings.

Fate brought us together years ago at a very unpredictable venue - KH house shuffling the tiles. soon it brought us apart to even as far as Thailand for i know. But yesterday, it brought us back together again, for only just 4 hours, and all the feelings and thoughts came back at once, just at my fingertips. Again, fate brings away everything along back to reality.

She is still the one i know when we first met. she is still as pretty as she is. people question about me and her, i would answered is all in the past. Only now i realise, it is all in the past when i am not with her. it all returned again when i saw her again. seems like i am having a hard time getting over her. i wonder this is becoming a fact.

it didnt surprise me to see her there but i was told i am fortunate because she no longer a frequent patron. indeed i felt happy once i saw her. we didnt talk as much as we use to. the greeney eyes of mine were well spotted by her when others approach. i rather choose to walk away. it is too difficult to smile again in front of the crowd. but soon, it resume what i wanted it all.

this is the same old ah boy and ah girl story. it was said that it will never to be changed. No one can prove words till actions are done. i choose to believe your current will be your future by living every relationship to the fullest. That's you. Chapter close, just any other story books.

I wish her happy always.. really.. and someone told me she will definately be happy always with my blessing. i hope so. i wish. bliss.

Saturday, March 7, 2009

Life.

moody..

Today is damn moody day. Even though things isnt as rough as it seems, but somedays are simply turn off. Suddenly, it relates me to think what is life all about. i find it rather interesting and see which of the following you have encountered before or heard before. see if you agree with me. all of the below scenerios are me myself experience it or heard from friends.

Basically life is playing around with...

1. taking advantage of others and vice versa

True huh? how many of you have been taking advantage of others and the next day someone will jolly take advantage of you? It happened in daily life but many of times, we are even happy to be taken advantage of. example is a coach is uitilising all his rights to ask his players to do things for him or whatsoever. many bball players will be more then happy ya? How many of your friends are close to you because they need you and not at other times when they do not need you? God damn many isnt it? today i heard from some coaches say that my coach often dump his PEOPLE aside when he is of no value to him or he doesnt need him anymore. I couldnt agree more. i am wondering if he has any idea that he is dealing with people? Chinese have a proverbs saying: 百年修来同船度 千年修来共枕棉. Go figure it out what it means.

That's life.

2. unexpected coming

Always expect the unexpected. Nice to say, easy to quote, difficult to proceed. How to expect the unexpected? even though we use to anticipate what is happening next, how many of times it will turn out to be? People always say if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Even with sufficient planning, things might turn out shitty due to unexpected coming. Who can you blame but yourself?

That's life isnt it?

Aiya write until here i boring already. because too moody to continue. Maybe next time when i am in a better mood, i will write more colourful things. meanwhile some great songs to intro!!

  1. turnin me on - Keri hilson
  2. breath slow - Alesha Dixon
  3. Get back - Demi
  4. Let it rock - Kevin Rudolf feat. Lil' Wayne 2

Aiya many more.. Lazy to put. just mail me if you want any..

P.S. Peace of mind doesn't come from having less problems - it comes from being less critical!

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Identity diffusion

touched.

Slow life. this is what i am experiencing now after my exams. The nothing to do life attitude really makes me think whether such a life is good for health. No worries since exams are past. Everyday focus on my coaching course and go around Singapore watching inter-school tournaments and meet up friends to play mahjong, catch the latest movie in town are my daily plans.

the very nice Doris make everyone a card and i am the Mahjong king! Glad to be named that way but i thought i suppose to be the president of the mj club? haha. but indeed i am touched by her effort to write the letter even though some England of mine couldn't make it. haha. her last statement is a meaningful one, check this out:

P.S the girl of your life will come someday so wait PATIENTLY OK!

My reply is OK! becoz not much other choice ma. haha. so would you rather i sit back and WAIT PATIENTLY or be a little pro active to find one myself?? She saw edwin the other day and fell in love with him. OH wait, i twist the words. haha. further contents please find it out from me.

there are certain things in life cant change.
  1. Your family members

    for this, god damn please believe me. No matter how much you hate your parents or siblings, this fact that they are your family members will not change forever. you will carry the surname of your dad for life. So please forgive them otherwise when you really want to do so, you might no longer have the chance, it will be sad. No parents will harm their kids. it always take more courage to forgive someone then to hurt them, especially your kins.
  2. Your blood group
    ahh, bullshit. If you are a o blooded human, you will be one forever.
  3. Time
    Time will be return back to what you missed out. Only movies like Click will illustrate the wonders to turning back time. Therefore do things that you wont regret in the future. Trust your instincts.

ok other then this 3 thingy, the rest all can change so please move along with time and make changes necessary to improve yourself. Be it cut your hair, trying to be daring by asking someone out or even say something in the person face, it will change your life drastically. Whether the change lead to a good or bad experience, it doesnt matter anyway becoz even though it's bad, you learnt.

Close the door on the past.

The past is only alive if you keep it alive. You cant change yesterday but you can build today for tomorrow. Dont shackle yourself with regrets. Dont start feeling sorry for yourself. Whatever your previous circumstances, others have gotten through the same or worse. Appreciate yourself as a tested survivor: strong and determined. Learn from the past but dont assume that your past automatically equals your future.

Instead, fill your life with anticipation. Set your goals. Write your to-dos. Just because you havent done something before doesnt mean that you cant start doing it right now. Be the new, dynamic you.

Right now.

The above statement are meant for my friends whom i know that are facing crisis.
Hope you have a chance to read it..

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Comparisons

Glad.

Choose your comparisons wisely
Many of our feelings of satisfaction or dissatisfaction have their roots in how we compare ourselves to others. When we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful. Even though the truth is we have exactly the same life either way, our feelings about life can vary tremendously based on who we compare ourselves with. Compare yourself with those examples that are meaningful but that make you feel comfortable with who you are and what you have.
Joe is the oldest of 6 brothers. The brothers range in age from 21 - 42. His family never had a lot of money, and the older brothers especically grew up in modest circumstances. When they finished high school, Joe and the two older bothers went to work. When the three younger bothers finished high school, however, they went to college. The older brothers feel like they missed out. Since financial aid wasn't as plentiful, they really didn't have a chance to get more education.
If they compare themselves to their younger brothers, Joe and the older brothers may feel disappointment and jealousy. They may ask, Why did they get the opportunities i did not? But if they compare themselves to many of their friends - men their age, men who had similar opportunities - the brothers see that they have more than most of their friends in terms of job satisfaction and a fulfilling family life.
Of course, Joe would gain no advantage by depriving his younger siblings of their opportunities. But he still feels bad when he compares himself to them. The answer, then, is not to make that comparison. The younger brothers grew up two decades later, in a different world and in many respects in a different family. Instead of disappointing themselves by making this comparison, Joe and the older brothers can feel good about both their younger brothers and themselves when they make a more realistic comparison to those who faced the same challenges as they did.
A large group of students was given a word puzzle to solve. Researchers compared the satisfaction of students who finished the puzzle quickly or more slowly. Students who finished the puzzle quickly and compared themselves with the very fastest students came away feeling dissatisfied with themselves. Students who finished the puzzle more slowly but compared themselves with the slowest students came away feeling quite satisfied with themselves and tended yo ignore the presence of the quick- finishing students.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Luck!

moody.

Have you ever think when our luck will be gone? like one fine day you have used up all of your luck. or your luck is never replenish after like you have used up for the past 10 years? Have you wonder why luck come and go like singapore MRT? sometimes you can get real lucky in a day and everything went so smooth sailing but some days you can forget about it like mahjong, getting a bad hand and hopes that particular rounds ends quickly.

i will miss my SW classmates and i think i will miss them badly.

  • the pretty Azi,
  • the muai thai master mr Apachai, Jackson
  • the ms. gf number 1, TWT
  • the funny, Zul
  • the funny but not funny,Tang en
  • the everything also want and yong chun yuan, Kenneth
  • the sleep round the corner, Gab
  • the religious, Rach
  • the going to be father, Kenny
  • the stress man, Wei teck
  • the babe, Denise
  • the wordy, James
  • the sprinter, Daryl
  • the mahjong queen, Doris
  • the cool, Eunice
  • the shaker, Farhan
  • the speedy, Raymond
  • the lifeguard, Huai xin
  • the theories, Andy
  • the not so tall man, firdauz
  • the tatooist, Charmain
  • the actress, Beiyi
  • the biker, Khai
  • the virgin, Razean
  • the defender, Bing
  • the mother, Isa

i think thats about it? and of course the best lecturer Mr. Lionel Teo, the big show Mr. Wong and the counseller Ms. Prema. you bet i will miss them..

You dont have to win everytime

Ultracompetitive people, who always need to win, end up enjoying things less. If they lose they are very disappointed, and if they win it's what they expected would happen anyway.

Richard was running for reelection as president in 1972. He directed his campaign staff to take all avaliable measures to win as many votes as possible. Most famous, of course, were the break-ins they staged at Democratic Party headquaters in the Watergate building in order to plant bugging devices. But staff workers also engaged in an endless series of what Richard himself labeled 'dirty tricks.' They would call up pizza par;ors and order a hundred pizzas to be delivered to the office of an opposition candidate. They would hand out phony fliers telling people that an opponent's rally had been canceled. They would call meeting halls and cancel reservations opponents had made for events. Why did they do these things? Richard was obsessed with winning - at all cost.

The great irony was that Richard was winning anyway and didnt need any of these tricks. But his inability to deal with the possibility of losing caused him to pursue these extreme methods and ultimately cost him the prize that he had so desperately pursued.

Competitiveness can preclude life satisfaction because no accomplishment can prove sufficient, and failures are particularly devastating. Ultracompetitive people rate their success with lower marks than some people rate their failures.

Thurman 1981.

Sunday, February 8, 2009

keeping opinions to yourself

anxious.

Your life has purpose and meaning.

you are not here just to fill space or to be a background character in someone else movie. consider this: nothing would be the same if you did not exist. every place you have ever been and everyone you have ever spoken to would be different without you.

we are all connected, and we are all affected by the decisions and even the existence of those around us.

take the example of Peter, an attorney in Philadelphia, and his dog, Tucket. Tucket was very sick. Gradually he was becoming paralyzed by a tumor on his spinal cord. Peter could not find a vet who could save his dog. Desperate to find someone who could help, he turned to a pediatric neurosurgeon. the doctor agreed to try to help Tucket, and in return he asked Peter for a donation to the children's hospital he worked in.

Jerry has never met Peter or Tucket. Jerry is a blue-eyed, blond-haired, 5 year old boy who loves to eat marshed potats. Jerry also has tumors on his spine and in his brains. With the help from the donation Peter mmade to the hospital, Jerry underwent successful surgery performed by the doctor to remove the tumors. Tucket surgery was also a success.

Studies of older americians find that one of the best predictors of happiness is whether a person considers his or her life to have a purpose. Wothout a clearly defined purpose, 7 in 10 individuals feel unsettled about their lives; with a purpose, almost 7 in 10 feel satisfied.

Someone once told me to keep your opinions to yourself. well said. because if other did not ask for your opinions, USUALLY they are not interested in your opinions. it will only turn out to be a fool blabber doing what he is best at. so it is a good learning point for me in my life.

Catholic High number 9: kill of unity sec bball with his 3 pointers many years ago in Toa Payoh sport hall. even till now many still remember and of course as a player, i remembered too. Today, we are in the same class and even having meals together. Can you imagine? i cant. haha. on court is a different thing. he is a nice guy, a malaysian and play good basketball. haha. (now i know PR must also serve NS)

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Apologise

tired.

How often do you hear someone who is elder say sorry to you?
Lets say your mom or dad say sorry to you? very seldom isnt it?

But today, my aunt did it. And i have picked it up from her. The story is...
my uncle and my aunt came over to my house for dinner. As always when they reached, i will greet them. but my aunt was busy looking at certain information from her child and miss the greetings from me. only my uncle response.

But a few minutes later, my aunt apologise to me, saying she didnt notice i was greeting her. I am surprise, really. it is not difficult for someone to say i am sorry but it is difficult to hear it from someone, especially from someone whom we respect. therefore in future remember to apologise first, it will always be nice to the other who is recieving it.

this lead me to think someone or many of them in SW0602 is HYPER DEFENSIVE. no matter what we say, either it is a joke or we really mean it, they tend to be very touchy and got hyper defensive about it. i have never hear them apologise about their behaviour. this is something maybe everyone should be aware. must we really get agitated because of a statement that someone is just joking about it?

recently i got several good books to share. you know, technology makes wonder. just download, print, spend $2- $4 to get it bind, and it became a book. Fantastic. And recently i have a book named Feeling good: 100 ways to feel better everyday. some of the ways really works but we cant simply follow all 100 ways. haha. feel free to borrow from me.

I hate this feeling. the not-motivated to work on projects feeling. my group mates are wearing success oriented boots while i feel i am lagging far behind them. just simply not able to produce the work like i used to. just want to sleep and rest everytime. This is distorting because i need to produce works that the group needs. My health and wellness project isnt giving me any help at all. seems like the module objective is to help people however, it does not help those who are working on it. the Killer Last 2 weeks is happening now...

ok thats all for today. hopefully sunday MJ is a fun thing. TWT make her DEBUT appearence on the MJ table. Interested parties please sign up for seats or can call 18oo-sistic for more information. WAHAHAHA

Monday, February 2, 2009

Clams

Happy!

all right let me tell you guys why i am happy. it is simply because Liverpool beat Chealsea 2-0. i am an easy guy because if liverpool wins a match, it makes my day! haha. so TWT, this first msg is for you because you feel my blog talks about soccer and you will give me the 'chey' face. haha

people are like clams. if they can fit each other, they are meant to be together. how true is this statement? perfect. even cooked clams are still attached to one another. in life there are things you should but may not want to do. on the contrary, there are things you want to but shouldnt do.

today went to chalet initially wanted to play bball but it seems boring without opponents so i pack and went home. in the mean while, find people play mj. wha i tell you, can vomit blood. no one wants to play!! so sick of finding players. better recuit some. haha. so went to meet TWT go suntec and marina to see people draw the gates and close their shop. haha. but i tell you, so funny our conversaion. haha. laugh until fall down. plus the last minute train! haha.

took up a coaching course and it starts today! great..

all right, thats all for today!!

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Drop points!

Angry.

OH MY GOD!! how many points does Liverpool intend to drop for the rest of the season. why cant manager Benitez buy players that perform on the pitch? Why Lucus Leiva over Alonso? Why take Torres out while he need more playing time? Why doesnt he start with want-away Robbie Keane??

so many question for his ability and the chances for the title. he should not have signed for a new contract. he should know he is not doing a good job unless:
  • he doesnt play Lucus
  • he buy players like Tim Cahill, Lescott
  • his play are more attacking
  • and many more!!

recently watching a great hong kong drama serial 'the gem of life'. the show is nice is simply because they are acting out how many can do so lots of things and can also break alot of things. great show so do catch the show if you have the opportunity.

Quote of the day: people are like clams, if they can fit each other, they are meant to be together.

kk i am going to sleep. good night.

Saturday, January 24, 2009

DUE TO POPULAR DEMAND!

Relax
i am back (due to popular demand)

wahaha, so funny becoz people have been telling me my blog got spider web in it due to long lost maintenace from the owner himself. so the last post was on, oh ya 1st of september.

so now i am back in singapore and met up with most of my friends like joeis, edwin, mullai and many more classmates. haha, singapore is better. i am planning to go back on march with some of my friends. the result i am planning is because you dont have to pay to plan but you will have to pay to go. haha.

there are tons of project recently as there are always datelines for it.

well, nothing much to write, abit rusty after not writing for so long. better save it for report writing later better. haha.

some songs to intro:
jamie foxx: just like me
kanye west: love lockdown
kat de luna: in the end
Pink: so what