moving on.
It's possible this is one of the hardest things to accept when it comes to matters of the heart. You find the person you've been looking for all your life. Trouble is, they dont seem to have realized it.
Maybe you met recently and you're head over heels, but they dont seem very keen. You're hanging on desperately, sure that they must soon realize you are made for each other ... Or maybe you've actually been together as a couple for years - they are very fond of you, after all, and being with you is easy - but deep down you know they dont really love you.
Sooner or, maybe, later they'll tell you that things just aren't working out, but you dont want to hear it. you try to persuade them to give you another chance. Maybe you try to change, to become the person they really want. It's all a bit humiliating really, but you dont see it like that. You think it's worth it to win their love.
Funny thing is though - it never works. Love just isnt like that. You can jump through any hoops you like, beat yourself up for not being able to match up their standard (as you see it), damage your confidence and your self- esteem in the process, and still they wont love you. They cant. Maybe they are gentle and apologetic about it, and maybe they are unkind or even brutal.
The same scenario is played out in relationship the world over - where only one of the 2 is actually in love. Think through some of the couples you know and i bet you can think of examples where this is true.
You see, however wonderful the object of your affections is, if they dont love you back the relationship will never be that good. Even supposing they could love you, if it requires you to keep jumping through all those hoops to hang on to them, it's just not worth it. You need and deserve someone who loves you for who you are, not for who you're pretending or trying to be. So as soon as you realize you're with someone who doesnt love you, you need to be really brave and end the relationship before they do. You will feel bad about losing them, but great for holding on to your pride, and one day you will look back and realize how courageous and right a decision it was.
